You can be anything you want if you work hard, — my mom used to tell me when I was a child.
Back then I did not know what I want to become, but I tried to lay every brick as perfectly as I could and work at least 10% more than an average person does.
To me, being successful in one area does not make up for being a failure in another. So, I aimed high and tried to excel in every single area of my life.
I was studying, doing various internships, attending language courses, training, sport challenges, having a handful of commitments to people that I love.
My learning curve was indeed steep: I was 5% best in class, got a scholarship for my Masters in The Netherlands, picked up German within 3 months… I put close to 100 hours a week into work. Guess what was left for the social life?
Pretty much nothing. I drastically failed there.
I remember cycling from my Mergers and Acquisitions exam to my German course, and I asked myself: “What is your stress level on a scale from 1 to 10, 1 being relaxed, 10 being anxious?”
I was approaching 9.
I was running myself to the ground and made myself that busy that I barely had time to grab something to eat.
Oh wow, what an image…. 😉
Sometimes it takes to reach the bottom to realize that actually, you have been at the bottom for a long time. We tend to take actions only when we arrive at the crisis point. Otherwise, it seems that it all works fine, we are moving somewhere…
But once I reached, I have learned a lot about myself. I took notes, became more conscious and stopped destructing myself.
If I can choose just one ‘take-away’ from this, it will be:
Your self-effectiveness boils down to balance and a conscious effort.
This phrase has two key areas I drastically improved thanks to Bullet Journal (click here to learn what Bullet Journal is):
Social media influence and general pace of life leave us no time to contemplate.
We are too busy to take a step back and embrace a bigger picture.
So, we often fall into a trap of being developed just in one area of our lives.
Have you met these people who have built a brilliant career but failed to fulfill a parent function?
Or the other way around?
They were too busy to stop and face it…
Do you know what roles in life are critical for you?
Employer, businessman, parent, partner, friend, volunteer? This knowledge should be on top of your head and should be formed based on your end goal.
What Bullet Journal does is — it helps you see the whole picture, identify what prevails and search for balance between the roles that are important for you.
2. Conscious effort.
Your daily life should reflect your final destination. To organize Your Today, you need to be clear on how you want Your Tomorrow look.
You really need to start from the reverse.
If you do not, you risk your day being filled up with unnecessary activities that do not bring much value on a long-term scale.
You can be legitimately and objectively busy, but in reality: you are moving nowhere.
- What is your end goal?
- What roles are important for you?
- What are your values?
There are fundamentals upon which all your planning should be built.
But the truth is, these questions are hard, and we often do not know the answers.
Once you start journaling, taking notes, asking yourself, you will eventually arrive at the answers.
They will be vague and not perfect. It is OK.
You will start a new Bullet Journal. You will adjust them.
But you will be more clear about your direction.
You will boost your consciousness and come to better terms with yourself.
Do not overthink, just start.
Click here to learn how to start a bullet journal.